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Social gay weekends away for meaningful connections in awesome locations - with one rule… no sex!
The video that started it all…
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This was the video I made just before I sat down with my notepad on my gay holiday (in a gay hotel) to work out why I was feeling so blue. I wrote down what makes me fulfilled and what makes me feel valueless.
After filling a couple of pages, I turned over a leaf and wrote NO SEX WEEKENDS.
Surrounded by the hyper-sexualisation of places like Torremolinonos - and many others - I wondered how much easier it would be to connect if sex wasn’t the currency and people didn’t feel like products on the shelf.
I realised that the environment creates this as much as anything else and, whenever we engage in it, we perpetuate it ever more.
And where other people are objects to admire, use, discard… so too are we… even those most in demand (not me by the way!)
That’s why I’m creating @nosexgayweekend
Weekends away in non-gay centred but fabulous destinations where we can connect and make friends - and possibly more - but with one rule… no sex!
I’m hoping it will allow everyone there a chance to redefine ‘fun’ to become something more valuable.
Meaningful connections
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Awesome locations
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👀 What do you mean No Sex?? (and other questions)
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Yep!
But really this is about changing how we look at each other - and ourselves.
In a hypersexualised gay world, we often facilitate and perpetuate the cycle of treating other people - and ourselves - as objects.
This project is not anti-sex, it’s about the intention to connect as people first, and then whatever happens after - great!
And you know what they say about desire when it’s forbidden… 🔥
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There are so many amazing places beyond gay destinations. I’ve been to many places just because they’re “gay” - Torremolinos, Maspalomas, Mykonos - even the cities I’ve chosen to live in… Madrid, London etc.
And yet, and yet!
There is a whole world out there. So we’re going to explore amazing places - gay guys in non-gay destinations.
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From outdoor adventures, cooking and eating together, music and dancing, activities, to social events, exploration, cultural excursions, sharing stories… it’s all about creating connections and making memories.
Example schedules to come!
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Activities, tours, visits and events are included. Food and drink, travel and accommodation are not included as standard, though I am working to provide some as a bonus. Hang tight!
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Ok there’s already a ban on s*x, we don’t need to go full puritan.
Alcohol will be allowed, but definitely won’t be the focus of the event.
No drugs allowed.
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Absolutely. And they should sign up too!
This project will also be a great place for people in couples who might want to make new friends and do new things.
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Currently yes. This project is a specific alternative to a gay male environment. We may find this changes over time
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Absolutely - and you’re also free to take a break whenever you like. At our events so far, almost everyone has come alone. What’s been heartwarming is to see people want to carry on after with new friends and with meaningful connections.
Also it’s our job to make everyone feel welcome. You can chat to us whenever!
Who even are you?
Hola, I’m Chris, a Brit in Madrid. I moved here after ten years in London in search of a happier life - and I have to say Spain is delivering 🎉
I post on socials, so it’s probably the best way to get to know me.
See you soon!
What people say about NGSW
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I have had the BEST time, this was such a freaking good day. Loved meeting you all. Like everyone else I’m so up for meeting again sometime. How did you find such a great bunch Christopher?? Thank you for making this happen! 💚💚
Oxford 2025 attendee
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It was a fantastic weekend, pleasantly surprised how much I enjoyed it. Thank you to Chris for planning the trip, and thank you to literally every person here who were just incredibly friendly great bunch of gays ❤️❤️
Oxford 2025 attendee
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It was a wonderful time and truly such a lovely experience to meet people in that kind of setting, honestly I had a blast
Pre-Pride Picnic attendee
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Massive thanks for the last two days 🙌 was really good meeting you all, chatting, connecting, and laughing off the social awkwardness 😅 Really enjoyed it and would love to keep in touch. Big thanks to Christopher for organising, keep it going, can’t wait for October!
Oxford 2025 attendee
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Just walking back to the car and wanted to say thanks for a brilliant day. It’s rare to meet a such a nice group of guys, so glad to have met you all 🥹
Oxford 2025 attendee
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I had such an awesome time with you folks. You really made my day, it was absolutely lovely to meet you and had such a blast. Punting was definitely an experience 😂 but I want to call out how grateful I am for your friendliness and kindness. You’re a special bunch, it was amazing to have such a cracking time with you!!
Oxford 2025 attendee
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I had a great time. It's been a while since I've gone to an event and it was fun to meet people 😊
Pre-Pride Picnic attendee
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I actually loved it
Pre-Pride Picnic attendee
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Congratulations! Yesterday was great. Hopefully we have weekends coming up soon!
Pre-Pride Picnic attendee
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Very nice, really enjoyable and something different!
Dessert Crawl attendee
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Such a fun time! Yummy spots and good vibes 😎
Dessert Crawl attendee
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Loved it! So chill, and everyone was of the same mentality, just looking to chat, hang out and make friends.
Dessert Crawl attendee